So what’s the outcome of Home Education?

Having moved into a new area I’m meeting new people and building new friendships which I’ve enjoyed. It’s also weird as your usual friends know your back story and you know theirs and there’s not much new to learn about each other. So it’s interesting to hear new personal histories, what others are up to and their lives like.

Inevitably the subject of home education comes up. And how much I expand on the subject depends on their initial reaction to it. But people are more aware of it since Lockdown and most have their own Lockdown stories to tell. Mostly the nightmare of doing ‘school-at-home which we know is completely different (blog here and here and here)

Some changed as a result and became home educators longer term having learnt more about it during school closures, and the differing styles and opportunities learning at home can offer. It became more evident to many that home educating isn’t school-at-home, it’s a completely different approach to learning and growing, often changing a lifestyle along with doing it.

At the time of the Lockdowns I really felt for parents having to do what was dictated to them by schools, forcing the kids to do tedious academic exercises that probably seemed totally pointless to the kids and they didn’t even have their friends around them to relieve the boredom. Most kids don’t see the point or purpose of doing much of what they do in school (me neither), for the sake of a future they can have no concept of.

And that’s perhaps the main advantage of home educating; that their learning is meaningful to them, often initiated by them and their interests arising from real everyday experiences and something they engage with and involve themselves in because it probably came about from something they have a personal interest in, not unrelated subject matter thrust upon them for the sake of exams they don’t understand. For example, their learning might start from something as simple as having built a Lego castle and led onto a history lesson about castles and conflicts, from there to simple politics, or broadened out into discussions about historical lifestyles, social history, involving research and skills essential to the progress of any child’s education.

People whose thinking is immersed in the school-at-home method of learning, where the child’s learning is always dictated by an adult will find that example of learning unimaginable or even downright scary. But it works.

There is a plethora of styles and approaches used by parents throughout the home educating community, which range from the completely autonomous, through a mixture of both autonomy and structure, across all subjects, to the more regimented and planned and timetabled approach that we’re more familiar with, always in line with children’s specific needs.

And it is very satisfying to relate to the new people I meet who are interested, now that we’ve moved beyond our home educating days ourselves and with what I’ve witnessed within the home educating community, that the outcome of all these varying and inspiring journeys is the same as those in school; intelligent, well educated, qualified, social and happy people who have moved successfully towards life beyond their school years.

So whether people did school, or home educated, they’ve still all arrived at the same place.

Fascinating, isn’t it!

Advertisement

Coronation; love it or hate it, it’s another educative opportunity

If you’ve read the story of our home educating days in ‘A Funny Kind of Education’ you’ll know that I never wasted an opportunity to learn.

Everything we did, everywhere we went, and everything we saw provided a starting point for discussion, exploration, investigation, research and the general development of skills, mental and practical. In fact, I think I got a bit obsessed and had to back off so as not to spoil every outing with ‘What’s that butterfly?’ or ‘Why do you think it’s like that? or ‘How much of this will we need to make a litre? etc

But when you home educate, you don’t just ‘do’ education, you live education and thus realise that the opportunities for learning are all around us all of the time.

Whatever your feelings about the coronation, the monarchy, the pomp and ceremony, the politics and the public spending, it is an extraordinary event. I was going to say, unlikely to be repeated in the children’s lifetime, but that would be wrong, as Charles is not going to be a monarch as long as our previous queen, the longest serving monarch ever, since coming to the throne at 18. So there will be masses to explore and learn in relation to it. And I don’t just mean the history of it. For there are many avenues of research; looking at other countries and their rulers for example, what the monarchy is for, the cost, what folks feel about it, the pageantry and how it’s developed, do we need it? etc. all of which will develop a variety of skills and broaden your children’s intelligence as you set about your related projects.

And this illustrates one of the key advantages of home educating; the opportunity for learning to be more related to the child’s direct experience, consequently of more interest, thus keeping them switched on to learning. Instead of switched off by a dull and distant set of facts prescribed by a staid and stultified curriculum someone else has designed for the sole purpose of pushing kids through tests for the sake of political agenda and not for the sake of the kids!

This is NOT the only route to becoming an educated and qualified person who is skilled, intelligent and fit for work, although the politics and the schools would like us to believe it is. They’re wrong, as is constantly proved by home educated graduates. Learning can be spontaneous and autonomous and work just as well. For it is not so much what you learn, as how you learn it that impacts on personal development and intelligence. And develops the skills needed to continue to learn in an independent and transferrable way, essential for life, not just for schools.

Children are fascinated by what goes on around them. Their fascination and curiosity are a valuable basis for learning, a basis that is so often destroyed by schooling.

The coronation is an exciting event, for the most part, even if we personally have reservations about it (the why of which also worth learning). It presents a chance for you to see how experiences in children’s lives can be used as opportunities for developing educational skills, whether these experiences are as massive as an event of a lifetime, or as small as investigating a bug on the pavement!

How is the news affecting your children?

I’ve been thinking for a while now how the world seems to be full of such crisis – and worrying about the impact on the kids.

I’ve got to a stage of mostly not watching the news, except for a quick catch up on current headlines, making sure to avoid a dramatised view and the sensationalism that some seem to revel in. What with wars and climate concerns, plus strikes and budgets and worries about money, it would be easy to feel there’s is no good in life anywhere, and fall into the trap of exuding a sense of doom.

And I wonder how this is affecting our children, as they always pick up on the things that are troubling us. Even my own young people and their contemporaries, not children any more, seem very troubled and worried about these affairs far more than we were when we were young. Many suffer from anxiety and depression and have such struggles in life.

Is there anything we can do about it?

I was reading an article about teaching history recently which discusses how in order to change our future we should change the way we teach history to children. (Find it here – really interesting and could affect the way you approach history with your children). Within it lay an idea about how we might support our children’s feelings and anxieties about current affairs.

Article: ‘To change our future we should change how we teach history to children’. Click the image for the link

The article talks about how over time our knowledge and understanding changes dramatically. Culture and beliefs affect how we present historical data to children, and this influences them from a vary young age. The things they learn early on in life have a big impact later, especially if it’s a case of them discovering that they’ve been expected to believe something that just isn’t necessarily true. With the amazing advances in science it’s apparent that even in a relatively short period of time, like our own life span for example, facts and knowledge don’t always stay true and accurate. Many historical accounts have altered considerably since I first learned them; some of Lucy Worsley’s programmes have updated my understanding of much of history and negates what I took to be true. This is also very much true of science and natural history as the programmes of Brian Cox and of course the indomitable David Attenborough show us.

So this article suggests that whatever we present to our kids, we do it with an open mind, that we include conversations about the facts – how they can change with new discoveries, without bias or dramatisation, speculation or control of children’s opinions and thinking.

The world is changing all the time – that is about the only unchanging fact and both bad and good come our way within these changes. It’s important for children to understand that facts, although we take them to be true at the time, change with our progress in understanding. Facts are not the unchanging gospels they’ve culturally had the reputation of being.

The author goes on to say that ‘people made the world what it is – and people can therefore change it. Of course, that’s no easy task, but it’s been done many times before’.

That could be quite a liberating approach to current issues – we can always be an agency for change. It might not be immediate and it might be small but there is always potential. These times and crises will change, we may be able to influence that..

Maybe adopting such an attitude and continually having conversations about it would be a useful and positive way to help our children, and indeed ourselves, navigate our way through tricky times for one day they’ll be history too. We need to try and keep a pragmatic perspective as much as possible and make sure that the good things in life are also prevalent in our news, our dialogues and attitudes, purveying a sense not of doom but of hope.

As I’m always suggesting; throughout your home education a sense of balance is paramount.

Are you a fair weather home educator?

Are you an indoorsy or outdoorsy type of person? I ask because this may impact on your child’s education and actually your whole family’s well being.

I’ve walked pretty much every day this year – whatever the weather and despite this rubbish Spring we’re having. I’m an outdoor obsessive, you see, need the light and definitely a sun junkie, but I’ll go out whatever it’s like. Because if I don’t’ I know there are serious repercussions.

There are serious repercussions for the kids too as studies are beginning to show. But even before I understood all that, I’d get out with the kids because it magically changed our days.

There’s a story in my book ‘A Home Education Notebook’ called The Outdoor Miracle which tells of the day we were all cloistered in the house annoying each other. So ignoring the intense resistance I managed to get the children out for a walk despite the unappealing weather. And the miracle happened; everything changed. Sulks turned to smiles. Aggressive moods turned to co-operation. Grisling turned to singing. And when we got back in the house we brought in with us a renewed and as invigorating an approach as the fresh air in our lungs.

And I’m so glad I did it – and made it a habit. Because research is now coming to light to show the monumental impact being outside, connected to nature, can have. Being connected to nature not only improves physical development, it improves mental, spiritual and emotional development too, the lack of which is bound to impact on learning progress.

I’ve just read a fascinating book called ‘Biophilia’. Biophilia is a term that’s been adopted to describe the innate human need to be connected to nature in one form or another. And that we need this connection not only to survive, but also in order to thrive. The book illustrates how we can make these connections through the way we live, work, arrange our homes, recreation, design communities and attend to our health.

It’s now understood that there is a direct link between nature and well being. Making periods of time to be out in the light directly connected to nature, whether that’s a walk in the park, being around animals, playing in a forest, field, beach or hill, having a pet, gardening. planting, making mud pies, whatever – has an impact. These activities can improve concentration and memory, reduce anxiety and depression, moderate behaviour and emotions and dramatically improve stress levels (all the more reason for you to get out there too).

A page from the book ‘Biophilia: You Nature Home’ by Sally Coulthard.

Conversely, the absence of attending to this need is creating conditions in children, like ADHD for example or behaviours associated with autism, which inhibit their well being, inhibit confidence, develops fear about being outdoors and in nature, and consequently inhibits their potential to learn and progress, both academically and personally.

So despite your resistance – and theirs, especially in challenging weather – it is still vitally important that you find ways to get outside and connect with nature as much as you can – fair weather or foul. Keep doing it until it feels more natural to be out than in. This way you will be bestowing untold benefits on your family and your children’s health and education.

I know it’s not always that appealing and Spring is so fickle, throwing conditions at us better suited to January, but you really cannot afford to be a fair weather educator!

In celebration of Mothers

It’s that Mother’s Day time of year again and I’ll probably be pampered by one or other of my wonderful children, even though they’re living independently now after all those years home educating.

However, as well they know, the commercial, profiteering and pollutive bandwagon that Mother’s Day has become quite revolts me (imported cellophane-wrapped, hothouse flowers and plastic flower pots being up there with other environmentally damaging stuff, for one)

Add to this the fact that all this buying of single-use tat for mums, can also mask the whole point of Mother’s Day; to celebrate the enormous importance of mothers.

Okay, we know mothers are important, but it often lies buried under the buying, and is seldom ever spelt out in words. When there are written words to describe that importance, you can repeat it, and learn and teach others why mums everywhere need our respect. (Dads too). Which is why I wanted to reiterate here something I’ve said before: the most valuable thing that you will ever do is parent your children.

So how come?

Because it’s not just your children who are affected by your parenting, or your own family life. It’s about something much bigger than that. And in order to understand that you have to step back and look at the bigger picture.

Think about ripples. When you chuck a stone in water the stone doesn’t only affect the place where it hits the surface, its impact sends ripples out through the whole pool. Right to the edges even, right to places it was nowhere near and never touched.

Your parenting is like that. Because your children are affected by your parenting more than they are affected by anything else in their lives. And that parenting, and the way your children are, will be sending ripples out through society just like the pool.

Your children affect the children they meet, the communities they join, the work they do as they grow, the families of their own that they may one day create. And it will not only be their own little communities they affect, for as those communities interact they affect others beyond their own ripples in their own pool and affect societies to come. And your children do not only affect this planet as it is now, their actions affect the future of the planet too.

These small babies of yours, toddlers, children, and so on, and the way in which you are bringing them up actually affects everybody. That’s how the bigger picture looks. And that’s why the most valuable thing that you ever do is to parent your children. Even more astounding is the fact that your baby may become the next Einstein, Prime Minister, David Attenborough, or the person who discovers the cure for cancer, or develops solutions to our changing world and the challenges it faces. Equally important are the less heralded jobs that all need doing like caring or teaching or nursing or entertaining or emptying our bins. The way you raise your baby affects all this.

And that’s why mums are, why parenting is (dads too), so, SO important.

It’s also why it is so important that we value it and celebrate it. That we value it enough to give it our time, thought and attention, we value it enough to prioritise our parenting duties, value it enough to make sure we do it well.

Of course, the next big question is; how do we do it well?

To do anything well, whatever it is, requires; focus, energy, being engaged, commitment, putting ourselves out, thought.

It also involves; research, consideration, decision making, sometimes sacrifice of other things we were formerly engaged in.

And changes to; ourselves, the way we behave, the way we think, our way of living.

The biggest requirement is respect:

Respecting our parenting enough to devote energy and commitment to it, be responsible about it.

Respecting ourselves enough to do this job to the best of our abilities, smarten up our act a bit, think through our morals, practices, behaviours, habits and language.

Respecting our children enough to value time spent with them, listening to them, being involved with their doings, guiding, educating them (and that happens as much through our interaction with them as anything else), cherishing them and nurturing them. Caring.

Now this may all sound too much of a demand on our time and energy and too much for us to aspire to or achieve. But it isn’t. For it is so, so simple.

It is simply achievable by just being a good, caring person. A good caring person who is there.

Being a good caring person you will pass that goodness and care onto your child. They will then understand what goodness and care is all about. And they will in turn send ripples of goodness and care out into the world, helping make it a good place to be. And that’s simply because of your parenting.

That’s the effect your parenting has. It has an effect far beyond you and your children. It has an effect throughout the world. That’s why it’s so important.

It is the most valuable thing that you could ever do. Mum or dad, that’s the value of you. Worth celebrating I’d say!

Try and celebrate your day without harm to the planet and you’ll be teaching your little ones to do the same.

Courage, vulnerability and the challenge of home educating

Home educating is wonderful; inspirational, exciting, fun. Like being let out of a prison you never knew you were in, freed up to make your world your educational oyster with pearls of learning to discover. It’s unimaginably liberating.

But it is not easy. Apart from all the usual considerations like, how will they learn? How will I manage being together all the time? How will they socialise? Will they be failures? Etc. there’s also the need to summon up the courage to do something different from the crowd.

Maybe that’s one of the biggest challenges: Finding courage; finding the courage to be vulnerable. Whenever we start something new or different to the norm we feel vulnerable – and home educating is certainly new to most. Vulnerability is not a nice feeling.

But don’t let that stop you. Feeling vulnerable about home educating is not necessarily a bad thing. This is because it puts you in the same shoes as your learner consequently helps you remember what it’s like. Any sort of learner is vulnerable, but most of us forget that, being so far removed from our school days (if we went of course).

In order to learn you have to accept there’s stuff you don’t know and that’s disempowering. Kids are always put in that position, we expect them to accept it, yet equally forget how uncomfortable that can make us feel, especially in the hands of an insensitive teacher. Not knowing stuff can make you feel awkward, inferior, even stupid as some are made to feel in school. None of this is helpful.

With home educating you have the opportunity to make it different for your kids. You can be vulnerable together! You can be intuitive and sensitive and encouraging – that’s the climate in which everyone, kids and adults, learn best.

As you learn and find your way into home educating you may feel scared and anxious and doubtful and hesitant. You may fear what everyone is going to say, fearful of ‘doing the right thing’. Everyone always does. But those who didn’t let that horrible feeling of vulnerability stop them have gone on to raise intelligent, educated, social and hard working young people who contribute to society as much as any child educated in school.

So blessings for the courage to be vulnerable. When you take the step and make the switch you are truly courageous.

Be proud, and if you don’t feel confident, hold judgement and bluff! That way you’ll help yourself (it really works) and you’ll help others to find the courage too.

Good luck!

(There are many pieces in my books, especially the latest; A Home Education Notebook, that will help you with the above concerns so it might be reassuring to have one to hand to help you over those tricky moments. Also see the book below; although not about home education it’s still an interesting read).

There’s a fabulous book by Brene Brown that’s worth a read which talks about the courage to be vulnerable… https://brenebrown.com/book/daring-greatly/

Will we ruin the children’s lives?

I missed it! The advent of the one thousandth blog posted here.

I was busy moving house, settling into new routines of living and trying to find that network of support you’ve built up over the years of living in the same place, which you tend to take for granted until it disappears that is. Support like folks to fix your laptop, mend the car, sort out a leak in the roof and most important, install some decent heating.

So I completely missed the fact that since I started here, over twenty years ago, I have written over one thousand blogs about the life and times of a home educating family, now all grown up of course, and about education in general.

One from the archives – before the Internet dominated our learning.

Home education has dramatically changed since then, the biggest of those changes being the growth of the facility of the internet which has increased its accessibility; to others, to information, to a whole home educating community you were never aware of, consequently making home education so much less daunting, more doable and more connected.

When we first started out none of that was available.

And that connectivity has more importantly changed something else as well. It has changed the way many parents see education and schooling.

Most parents accepted that schools, the education system and the politics behind it, was bound to be the best education their child was likely to receive, the best and only way for their children to become educated adults.

No one is quite so accepting now. Flaws in the system, what it provides in the form of ‘processing’ the young in contrast to educating them, and the impact this has not only on their achievement but on mental health too, are much more visible as people talk and share and discuss it, through a whole range of public platforms that were not available before. It’s removed some of the elitism attached to those in the know about education (supposedly) who dictated what happened to our kids, which we never had the opportunity to challenge or question in the way we do now.

Now we do. Parents are raising questions, discussing problems, are much more able to shout their opinions widely and publicly express their distaste in an outdated system no longer suited to contemporary society. Consequently, finding courage through this connectivity, the number of home educating families seeking alternatives increases daily.

Anyway, back to this post-one-thousandth blog and the reason I mention it. It was to share with you what those little children of six and nine when we started, who are around their thirties now (can hardly believe it) are up to in case you worried that home educating would ruin them, as I know this can be a very large and imposing worry for many considering home educating: Will we ruin the children’s lives? (Odd how no one questions whether school will ever ruin their children’s lives – even with tangible truth of it now)

I’m happy to say that neither of them have been ruined, not from my point of view or theirs! And we all still have that lovely relationship developed through home educating. Furthermore, they are both educated, intelligent, working, independent young people, busy about their lives, like pretty well all of the others they grew up home educating with.

Our eldest has just completed a Masters Degree (Distinction), whilst working and running her own business (all through Lockdowns), after having a complete career change because of Covid. Our youngest also changing track, now working in a garden centre after deciding that being Manager of a shop in a renowned retail chain was not for her. She could not reconcile her distaste for selling polluting mountains of tat wrapped in plastic, and is looking towards a greener career.

Both have developed the skills of flexibility and adaptability needed in today’s working world and continue to grow and extend themselves. And their PR skills are exemplary – they are not social misfits as some fear that home educators will become. There have of course been many ups and downs on their journeys – as in all life journeys wherever you are educated. But I think home educating; by achieving what they needed through diverse approaches helped develop an attitude to life that showed them that; whatever isn’t working in life you can probably change even though that might not be easy, but you can find the courage to do it anyway.

And that’s what I would say to any new home educating parent reading this, or anyone considering doing it; that home educating is not always easy (school’s not always easy either) but if you can screw up the courage to do it anyway the rewards are immense. And no, you won’t ruin the children.

A Home Education Notebook is now back on Kindle

It’s taken a while but finally I’ve sorted it; ‘A Home Education Notebook’ is available again on Kindle after a short absence.

The reason for the delay was because my focus got stolen by moving house, which is all consuming as anyone who’s ever done it knows.

Moving house means establishing new routines (like where the nearest food is), getting to know new people (builders, plumbers, tech gurus and fixers) and of course new friends and communities.

Meeting new people, who always ask about your life so far, means more explanations of home educating and I receive a variety of responses, mostly in the form of a barrage of questions; do you do lessons, do they have teachers at home, do you have a timetable, what about friends, tests, curriculum, GCSEs etc?

Whilst the Lockdowns made the concept of ‘Home Schooling’ more familiar, the more seasoned home educators among us knew it was nothing like home educating, it was just doing school stuff within the four walls of home. Completely different. (Expanded in a post here)

However I still find it difficult to explain those differences even now, how education is not necessarily about lessons, or tests, or teaching, or exams. To explain how children learn without lessons, or teachers, or tests and timetables, they can actually learn for themselves (Shock! Horror!) That learning can actually happen in an organic, holistic, autonomous, interest-led way from the things children are naturally curious about, by being out, observing, engaging in, analysing and involving themselves in finding out about the world and building the skills needed to do so, even without age-related structures usually imposed upon education. Along with all that how home educated children also have friends, develop social skills, and mix happily in company (see this post about socialisation).

The stories in ‘A Home Education Notebook’ written as it happened, demonstrate that the best. Along with ‘A Funny Kind of Education’. The articles themselves are an illustration of how the everyday experiences we had encouraged and developed children’s knowledge, skills and understanding of learning quite naturally. And how – even more surprising to some – this happens because children want to learn.

Children don’t necessarily want to be schooled. But they mostly want to learn, if they’re allowed to in their own way, in their own time, through subjects that matter to them in their worlds. The success of this has been shown time and time again by all the home educated youngsters who’ve grown up and out into the world, making their own decisions, incorporating any structure and traditional approaches and outcomes as and when (and if) needed to get them there. And so proving that home education really does work and adequately prepares young people for the ‘real’ world. The real world being the one outside that bizarre world of school!

This new edition of ‘A Home Education Notebook’ concludes with a chapter about all those home educated young people we grew up with and what they’re doing now post-twenty, who are proof indeed!

So if you’ve been waiting for the Kindle version of this new edition, it’s back again. It’s the book readers have told me that reassures and inspires them the most. Hope you enjoy it.

Kindle edition available now

Happy New Ways

Happy new year!

I always felt that the start of the new year was a good time to press your refresh button, take a moment to review your home educating days, and bring some awareness to what’s worked well over the last year and more importantly, what hasn’t!!

It’s such a simple concept, often overlooked, to spot the things that are not working and remember that you can change them. That’s the beauty of home education. So have a think back, winkle out the things that need changing, look at approaching things in new ways, look at new projects you can start, new skills that could be developed, new interests pursued, new connections to make.

Whatever you have in your home ed life there is always room for change and for growth. There has to be, if you think about it, for children change all the time and that’s how education is developed; not necessarily by accumulating knowledge but also by working out what there is to know, by developing the skills to learn, by changing to accommodate new concepts, by taking time to practice new skills.

So look out for new activities that will enable this growth, that perpetuate the progression of skills and accomplishments. However, don’t get bogged down in thinking they always have to be academic; there is far more to developing a roundly educated person than mere academic study.

For example; any kind of creative activity is beneficial to the development of education. Creative practices develop mental skills just as much as learning the times tables or practicing grammatical exercises. Creative activities require thought and observation, imagination and problem solving, hypothesising and lateral thinking. Creative practises develop both mental skills and motor skills in ways you’ll perhaps never know. For example, drawing, colouring in, painting, designing, cutting, building models, customising, manipulating materials, inventing, gaming, sewing or knitting, cooking and baking, all contribute in developing the skills and intelligence necessary for writing, computing, coding, reading, solving mathematical problems and boosting intelligence generally. There’s a cross over of skills required for so many different educational disciplines that creative practices can develop. (see a former blog here).

But don’t limit your activities to the mental, or sedentary, creative or otherwise. Physical activities are just as important for the healthy development of the educated mind too. Children need to be moving.

New understanding of children’s development has shown that being physical is as important to developing intelligence as those mental activities you’d normally associate with learning. It’s important for their mental well being too. Physical exertion increases blood flow – we know that. But we forget perhaps that the brain also needs a healthy blood flow as much as our muscles do. Increased blood flow to the brain stimulates ideas and solutions, mental capacity and flexibility, originality and insightfulness and confidence and therefore intelligence. (An article here – ignore the sensationalist title!) You often hear writers or philosophers or pop stars say that the ideas for their books or songs came when they were walking or hiking or cycling or whatever. (The ideas I’ve had are the same – I’ve often needed to stop in the middle of a freezing field and note something down).

So whatever new projects you inject into your new home educating year – from gardening or growing, through art work or construction, den building or community projects, to exercising and exploring, and time outside – introduce routines that include daily creative and physical tasks. They are as essential to your child’s development as anything academic that you do and will benefit their education in untold ways.

Even better; tossing out old habits and introducing new ways always give you a buzz, so it may even make everyone happier.

Happy new home educating year!

Get outside whatever the weather then go back and get creative!

Merry Christmas

I can’t believe it’s got round to Christmas again already.

What a weird couple of years we’ve had, but here we are again.

Hopefully there’s a little more certainty about seeing our loved ones than there’s been over the last couple of years (not counting train strikes). But I’m not taking anything for granted because there are no guarantees – of anything.

That’s how life is.

No guarantee of Christmas going according to plan. No guarantee that home educating will go to plan. Equally no guarantee school would go to plan either, if you were using it.

So sometimes it’s just best if you stick with the smallest and nearest of times, make them as good and as enjoyable as you can. Then all these times pieced together will make a good and enjoyable life. And education!

Home education isn’t going to be enjoyable all the time. Or good all the time either. We’re none of us saints or robots, neither parents nor children. Or teachers come to that! Home educating has its stresses and upsets – inevitably – that’s what life’s like, that’s what human nature is like. Unpredictable.

So how an evenly mapped out and prescribed education like they attempt in the system could ever be guaranteed to work I have no idea.

The best plan I feel as you home educate is just to accept that unpredictability. Be flexible – it makes a big difference. Do what works at the time. Be open to the changing needs of your child. And let nature take care of the rest.

That works for Christmas and it works for home educating.

Take care of the small things and the small times.

And talking of nature, please be conscious of the needs of the planet as well as your children’s, for the small things you do towards easing the planet’s burden this Christmas will make a big difference, as do the small things you do for the kids.

Wishing you a very happy and love filled Christmas full of all the small things that make it so.

And thank you so much for reading this. Thank you to all who’ve shown support for my work over all the long years I’ve been doing it and through the small here and now times too. It has always been appreciated.

MERRY CHRISTMAS