WHO AM I?

DSC_0638 I’m a parent, home educator and writer although I’m not sure how I got to be any of these things as none of them were planned!

I started out teaching in schools which was a bit daft really since I was never at ease with the environment there. This was where I began to suspect that much of what went on there was not always good for children, let alone the teachers.

So I left teaching and worked in a variety of jobs the highlights of which were mucking out horses and making the tea.

Becoming a parent was an absolute joy – still is even though we’re cheek to cheek now. There is nothing more valuable that we do than parent our children (see pages). It has an irreplaceable impact on their development; their well being, their relationships, their education, their life. And others’ lives too.

When our two reached school age, being what I thought was a dutiful parent, I sent them off to school like millions of other parents. Then we watched our children fade before our eyes; their smiles, their happiness, their vibrant personalities. Worst of all; their passion for learning. We thought: there must be another way – and there is.

We hadn’t planned to home educate. We hadn’t planned to do it long term. It was just the way it happened. And it suited the children. They learnt what they needed to learn without suffering, they could be themselves, best of all they got their smiles back. Now they are moving on to do other things in the wider world and seem well equipped to make decisions, interact with others, use their intelligence, and know who they are and what they want to do despite not going to school.

(Read the full story in A Funny Kind of Education – see the My Books page. Or listen to an extract here. And meet my daughter talking about home education here.)

During all of this time, all of my life really, I have always written. Some of this writing is for parents, some especially for mums, some for home educators, and some just for people who would read it! Mostly though, I write to help and support others. To encourage and inspire others to make choices, to be who they want to be, and to live an individual and inspired life.

Contact me via email: r.mountney@btinternet.com

Twitter: @RMOUNTNEY7

https://www.facebook.com/RossMountneyAuthor

22 Comments

22 thoughts on “WHO AM I?

  1. My daughter is 10 and struggling at school, she has a few months left but is constantly told by her classmates that she is different and that she has ‘problems’ just because she is an individual. She was such an outgoing confident person before and can completely empathise with you as so much you have written rings true with me. Thank you for your inspiring words

    • Hi Becky, thanks for visiting and leaving your comment. So glad to have inspired. It’s such a shame that anyone has to pay such a high price in school for being an individual! Isn’t it always the case?! Yet often it’s the individuals who go on to do something great in life. All the best. x

  2. How do you go about home educating young learners 10 years old who are very good at science and who expect to need laboratory’s and lots of science stuff to do experiments?

    • Science is far more to do with the development of the mind than what equipment is available, but the scientifically inclined home educators we knew all found what they needed from whatever resources were available to them.

  3. This is a lovely blog. I homeschool my four boys with a lean to unschooling. It has taken me untill my now oldest is 10 to really get my grounding in this relaxed style but it is going well. I look forward to reading more here!

    • Thanks so much Nicole. So glad you liked it. It does take a while to settle into home educating without being uptight with worry all the time. Just the same with all parenting really. Best wishes. x

  4. Hello everyone. I thought I would just put my experience of home education on here. My son is now 20 and never attended a formal educational establishment until commencing his ‘A’ Levels. He achieved seven GCSEs at home, all grade ‘A’ with the exception of one at grade ‘B’. He went on to achieve three ‘A’ Levels at college with grades A,A,A*. He was recommended by his tutors to make an Oxbridge application, which he did and passed the entry exam. He attended Oxford University for interview, but with six interviewees per place, he was unsuccessful in securing a place. He was the only Oxbridge applicant from Stamford College; not bad considering he had never been to school! He is now in his second year at Warwick University, having achieved the equivalent to a First in his first year exams.

    My son is extremely articulate, mature, and very motivated to follow his dreams. He is prepared to work hard to get what he wants in life. Success cannot be measured alone by formal qualifications. There is nothing more rewarding for a parent than to see their child happy, content, and confident. My son led the education and speed at which is happened. Home education is not for everyone, this is true, but then again neither is school! ~ Susan.

  5. I There are many lists out there on the web of now famous adults who were home educated as children but to look at this alone misses the point that the whole of life is a journey. Childhood is not preparation for life, childhood is life. As someone more eloquent than me once said.
    It is not all about careers, other things contribute to human happiness.

  6. Unfortunately so many adults nowadays can hardly spell and count. Some families think it is easy to educate the children at home. The sad part is that they think they can do. So it is best sometimes not to encourage them to keep their children at home. I would like to know how many home educated children have become very successful. How many have become doctors, lawyers, heads of companies?

    • Hi Alice, thanks for posting! I agree in part; I’ve always maintained that home schooling is not for every family and I used to worry about that. But I think parents who come here to be inspired are probably those with the right quality of mind to do so.
      And there’s far more to an educated person than being able to spell and count and many more criteria to measure success by than becoming a doctor, lawyer, or head of company. There are also occupations ranging from teachers to dustbin men that are equally as valuable to society. I know several home educated young people going out into the world who are none of these things but who are still successful and happy in their lives and making a valuable contribution to the world.

    • Hello Alice, my son is only fourteen so obviously I can’t say what he will go on to be. However, he has passed two LAMDA exams both with distinctions for his Shakespeare and Marlowe. He acts in theatre productions and has twice been involved in the National Theatre’s Connections. He has his own website and constantly has reviews and articles published on other people’s websites. He is self motivated and totally career orientated. Apart from that he is well mannered and a delight to be with. I hope this helps you with your research on home education.

    • But Alice, surely most of those adults who you mention as not being able to spell or count will have been educated at school? So we can’t automatically assume it is the better option. My eldest son, who was home educated from the age of 8, chose not to follow an academic route and did not take any GCSEs. His passion is sport so his experience and qualifications are in that area and he is now at college taking a BTEC in Sport. I am constantly surprised by how his general knowledge, vocabulary, ability to comprehend a complex issue and so on surpass those of his schooled peers, even those who have the recommended five GCSEs Grades A*-C!! As Ross has mentioned, there are many ways to measure success.

  7. …There is nothing more valuable that we do than parent our children.. This is so right how do we get society to remember it ?

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