It’s not that I don’t like these programmes and I know they’re terribly popular. It’s just that we can’t seem to have something entertaining and enlightening without it being a competition.
And one of the worst things of all about them is that pregnant, sensationalist pause before the winner is announced, as if the judges enjoy the power they’re holding everyone ransome to. As if that is a good example of a way of behaving, which we’re demonstrating to all the young watchers, when it isn’t!
I know it’s just telly – (is that a good enough excuse?) – but I think it’s bad for us, individually and as a society.
But I think it’s especially bad the way this competitive culture invades education too, when we promote education as competitive and as the only way of being good at something or doing well.
Education is surely about the development of each individual and the only way competition serves us well in the educational field is to use it to compete with oneself in order to better oneself, regardless of beating others.
However, the really truly destructive thing about it is that competition is the opposite of cooperation. And it’s cooperation that makes the best societies; cooperation we should be educating for.
To develop cooperative societies we need education to build knowledge and understanding, which will more importantly build the skills of empathy in the children; the ability to understand another’s point of view and have some empathy towards what others are feeling and going through. This is the best way of using education to improve the world, rather than seeing education as something to be top at. Whenever competition is involved there are always losers. There don’t have to be losers in education.
That’s why I love home education so much. It is truly a way of educating for the betterment of the self, there is no top or bottom, winners or losers involved – or there doesn’t have to be. And it offers the chance for a happier education.
Why is this important? Because it benefits everyone. There’s a post about it here and how that happens.
Meanwhile I’ve been reading a beautiful book called ‘The Little Book of Lykke’ by Meik Wiking of ‘The Little Book of Hygge’ fame. It has a lovely story of an age old game and turning it into a chance to learn about empathy, rather than doing others down.
It’s musical chairs; I’m sure you’re familiar with it, there being one too many children for the amount of chairs so someone is going to lose out when the music stops and they have to find a seat. The game described in the book has one less chair than the amount of children but instead of being ‘out’ two children have to fit on one chair. During the second round another chair is taken away, so two pairs of children have to sit on a chair together which requires cooperation. As the chairs get less, more and more kids have to pile on less and less chairs which requires more and more cooperation and is far more fun than getting people ‘out’! And it teaches kids how to look out for others, a far better lesson than just thinking of oneself.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if education was more like that game of musical chairs, was more about helping each other along, than being the top at the expense of others?
When I come to think of it, I reckon that’s how most home educating families operate. Or is that cooperate!