Do you forgive yourself as you do the kids?

Pic doesn’t do the ‘glow’ justice – well – it was raining!

I walked round a nature reserve a few weeks ago and the trees were positively glowing and illuminated with their autumn yellows, oranges and auburns.

I was glowing too. Sadly not with Autumn but with anger! Anger at a stupid mistake I’d made in my schedule, wasting time and petrol (and consequently pollution) as a result.

Seething doesn’t describe it! And all the noble words I spout off to others about letting go of angst came back to mock, along with berating myself for being such an idiot. So, as well as an idiot, am also a hypocrit!

Finally, back absorbed in work again, I gained some balance and relief, forgiving myself my mistake – as I would others. Finally!

How many times as parents, I wonder, have we been forgiving and comforting to the children for their mistakes, yet carry on berating ourselves for our own?

Go on – be honest – do you offer the same comfort and forgiveness to yourself as you do them? Have you ever thought about it?

Maybe you could. Maybe it would help sometimes.

And maybe we could practice the same forgiveness and approach to dealing with the mistakes we inevitably make as parents – especially home educating parents – all the time, by owning it, by sorry if it involves them, by learning how to do it differently next time, and thereby demonstrating to the kids a valuable life lesson; not only about forgiveness. But also, just as important; that parents are equally worth the same consideration and respect that we show to them. A lesson on how to forgive oneself – how to make mistakes and move on, a useful part of learning about life!

Just an observation.

And talking of learning, I’ve now put in place a strategy for hopefully not doing the same thing again!

5 thoughts on “Do you forgive yourself as you do the kids?

  1. Pingback: Do you forgive yourself as you do the kids? — Ross Mountney’s Notebook | Ups and Downs of Family History V2.0

  2. Thanks so much for sharing your emotive story. Always hard to let go those habits and feelings from childhood, I completely understand. But your awareness is an indication you’re on your way. Well done. Keep going!

  3. it is a bit difficult for me to write a comment on forgiveness because i can be really hard on myself sometimes. sadly, this has a knock-on effect on our children. i was raised by authoritarian parents. although i have been thousands of miles away from them for 16 years, bad habits are still hard to break. trying to break away from the mould is a bit challenging. and so, i am still a work in progress.

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