The minute I saw Charley I grabbed her in a massive hug. I tend to do that anyway. It’s what we do. It’s what we’ve always done. And I don’t get so much opportunity these days, now we’re no longer home educating and they live independently.
I drool loving messages in her ears along with the kisses while she laughs and hugs back – she has the best hugs ever.
This time as I held her I said; “This is why you’re so intelligent, you know.”
She looked back at me laughing. “How come?”
“Well apparently, research now shows that the more you hug your babies the better their brains develop, so come here.” (Read the article here)
I grabbed her again as we joked at the idea of her being my baby when she’s about to celebrate her 25th birthday.
You’re never too old for hugs, brain development or not.
The beauty of home education is that you get an extra amount of time for hugs. For expressing your care and value and love for them. And respect of course.
They don’t always want it. Charley didn’t so much when she was tiny and very reserved. Anyway, she always wanted to be chasing about, too busy for huggy stuff. Nowadays she’s the most huggy person ever.
But I do think it is another one of those little things that going to school can affect; the time, opportunity and even inclination to express your love for one another especially through hugs and touch.
School creates tension in households with its rules and demands and stresses. Admittedly we all have those to negotiate in life, but so many of the school demands are unrealistic and unnecessary and placed on kids too young; the demand of the homework for one. Not to mention the tensions of school relationships which to me seem wholly unnatural, despite the ridiculous idea people have that kids have to go to school to ‘socialise’. School is the last place I’d want my kids to learn about socialising (post about that here) as relationships there are built on unhealthy tensions and are rarely anything like those relationships outside of school.
And I believe these tensions come home with them and affect the relationships within the family. There are bound to be tensions when the relationship many parents have with their kids after school boils down to arguments about getting their homework done, issues over uniform, or not behaving like so-and-so at school does!
Parents of school kids have a lot to counteract in maintaining their precious relationships with their kids at home.
Families who home school have the opportunity for hugs and holds whenever the need arises.
And it is all those hugs and holds which impact on the way your child develops emotionally and mentally and spiritually from then on. It is the natural part of the human existence that we all intrinsically need. And we should never skimp on it. Hugging time missed out on can never be replaced.
Better get on with it then!