Treat a bad day like passing wind!

Waiting for the climate to change!

Being the best parent you can be (see last post) is exhausting. You’re bound to get a bad day. A day when you probably wish you weren’t a parent at all and had another job!

We all get them whatever job we’re doing. Whether it’s parenting, home educating, employment out the home, self employment, what ever path you’re forging you’re bound to get a day that’s totally crap. It’s a life thing – not a job thing.

It’s odd though; when you’re an employee you tend to blame the job. When you’re a parent, particularly a home schooling parent, you tend to blame yourself. And that makes a crap day a whole lot crappier!

So this is a post just to say: DON’T BLAME YOURSELF.

We all love our kids to bits and love being with them – of course we do. (I’m assuming you wouldn’t be the kind of person bothering to read this if you didn’t) But that’s not going to mean that we won’t get down about life occasionally. It’s just what happens, whatever we do, and is as natural a part of the human condition as passing wind! And – yes – everyone passes wind even those who pretend otherwise. Equally, everyone will suffer a bad day even if they pretend they’re perfect.

But that doesn’t make us bad parents or bad home educators. It’s just the way it is sometimes. So don’t beat yourself up over it. The best way to help yourselves is to ACCEPT it. It’s just life. And nurture yourself through this bit just as you would nurture a friend.

If you viewed your parenting, or home educating role, like you’d view employment, you’d accept there’s bound to be bad days when you’re giving less than you’d like. If you were employed you might even throw a sickie!

Can’t do that as a parent – but you can go easy on yourself for a day till it passes. Also remember there are teachers, nursery workers, assistants, helpers, who will be working through a bad day without giving their best either. It’s just normal having a bad day from time to time. Doesn’t make you a bad person, just because you can’t give your best today.

Make a cuppa. Sit it out. Accept it gracefully. Wait for the climate of your day to change. You’re just human. Deal with it with the compassion and gentleness that makes you humane.

This will show your children the skills to deal with bad days whenever they get them too, and help them understand bad days are part of life and not to worry – the climate always changes – bad wind always passes! So even on a bad day you’ll be teaching them something through your parenting! Take comfort from that. And if you’re suffering one right now, may your climate soon change!

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9 thoughts on “Treat a bad day like passing wind!

  1. Thanks Ross, I’ve had a bad week and this was a gift in my inbox this morning. I’d already planned to nurture myself today and your post has made me feel a whole lot better about it. I so appreciate your realness. I’ve been on a real journey with self care this year and have come to realise that when I nurture myself I am in a better place to nurture my kids educationally and otherwise! Hope the sun has come out where you are ☀️❤️ xx

    • Aw that’s really lovely to know Clare. Thanks so much for taking the time to post. I like your insight too; you’re right in saying that whatever we do for ourselves rubs off on the children. And thank you – my sun’s out again! 🙂

  2. One of the things my (now grown) children told me that they appreciated about my parenting was that I always apologised whenever I ‘flew off the handle’.

    • Thank you Patricia – that’s good to know. I always found a sincere apology worked well too because we inevitably sound off sometimes. And this gives them the respect we’d expect from them. Thank you for taking the time to comment – always appreciated. x

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