I didn’t think I’d ever make such a statement – or a suggestion. I didn’t think I’d ever be so arrogant as to assume I knew what the best way to parent was!
I’m not saying I do it’s just that I read a rather nice statement the other day that put me in mind of it. It said that the best way we can serve others is by being an example and an inspiration. And it came to me that this is exactly true of parenting.
The best parent that you can be comes not from parenting rules or trends. It comes more importantly from being the best person you can be.
Through being the best person you can be you demonstrate to your children what a best person looks like – what they can to aim for. So maybe the best way to parent is through being an example of the kind of person you’d like your children to become.
Children learn far, far, far more through example than through anything else.
Thus; if you want to raise kind, considerate people you show them what kind, considerate is.
You inspire them to work, learn, relate to others by the way you work, learn, relate to others.
You encourage them to take care of the world and the things in it by the way you take care of those things.
You teach them how to love and respect by the way you love and respect.
You also show them how to discern, decide and gracefully detach when need be by the way in which you do that.
If you want to raise kids who contribute to the way the world works then you’ll do that through your own contribution (parenting being one of the most important contributions you can make).
If you want to raise children who have standards and morals and principles you need to decide for yourself what standards, principles and morals are important to you and live by them – consistently.
And if you want to raise people who know how to relax, take care of their mind body and spirit, then the way you do that will be the most influential demonstration they could have.
This perhaps is not only the best way to parent, but also the simplest way to parent. Be who you want them to become, then allow them the integrity to follow.
You inspire by your consistent example – and it won’t just be your kids, it will be other parents too.
Don’t you think that’s an awesome thought?