We had a terrible crisis last winter. It could have been so much worse.
It was a road incident that was a hair’s breadth away from being an awful fatality that we’d live with forever, due to the irresponsible behaviour of a drunk.
He staggered oblivious out into the main road in front of our car.
In the dark and driving rain, with black clothing and oncoming lights on a rural road that was not lit, there was no chance of spotting him beforehand. Although well within the speed limit we weren’t going slowly. Charley was driving. He glanced off the side of the car with a sickening thwack which made me think we’d killed someone. Thankfully not – he was hardly hurt, too drunk to even know what had happened, didn’t even go to hospital. We were scarred with the trauma of it for months – I can only just speak of it now without shaking.
Thankfully these incidences don’t happen often. When they do, the sameness of life I might have been bored with seconds before, becomes incredibly sweet.
When the shock and the anger at the perpetrator of it, who walked away unmoved, wore off I was left with the replay of the awful event that could have marred our young driver’s life for the rest of it should chance have swung the other way. It took us both a long time to settle back down to calm.
We all develop strategies over time to even out the pitch and toss of life. And to have strategies to hand is an enormously helpful skill to pass on to our youngsters. However we deal with things will be the way they deal with things. If we react with screams and drama it will not help. We have to be strong, pragmatic and move on forward with the practicalities as best we can. (Even if we crumple later).
And I also guess that these experiences are a reminder to take note, during those times of equilibrium, of what we value about life, even the boring bits, instead of always letting them slip insignificantly by.
I completely understand how you feel over this Ross. So awful when something like that happens. I agree with Patricia, EFT may well be the way to go. Lots of love to you all xx
Aw, thank you Trina. How absolutely lovely to have your voice here. xx
Beautiful and poignant words. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you very much. Lovely of you to say. x
Oh, Ross, my heart goes out to you and Charlie.
I wonder if you know about EFT tapping? It is very effective in releasing trauma, which tends to stay in our bodies and can manifest in physical pain or disease if not totally released.
It can also come to the surface when an incident triggers us, sometimes years later.
I highly recommend you both check it out to see if it’s something you would like to use. It cost nothing to learn it at emofree.com, which is the official site of the founder, Gary Craig.
Thank you very much Patricia for your supportive kindness. I have heard about EFT tapping, but didn’t remember it at the time. As you say I think the repercussions of this trauma were stored for quite a while and manifested itself in weird ways in body and emotions for quite a time after. And as you say – when we pass that spot on the road, I feel it always lurking there six months later! These episodes take some releasing. Much appreciate your concern. x