Chelsea’s working so hard at the moment. She’s initiated a new production for the Brighton Fringe
this year and is working on it with friends. It’s an impressive undertaking and I so admire her, tinged with concern of course at how busy she is.
I look at our two young adults now and wonder how they got to be the wonderful people they are – it’s something you always worry about as a parent, particularly a home educating parent.
I know all our experiences shape us; from childhood, school, home education, family, work, whatever. And although we can control some of the experiences our youngsters have we’ll never control all of it however much we want to keep them sweet. And we certainly can’t control how they respond to those experiences – that response is inherent in them. We won’t be able to determine that entirely.
For it is never nurture (or nature) in isolation, as the debate leads us to believe, it is the interaction between the two that determines the people our kids become. It is the youngsters’ reaction to their experiences which determine how things turn out. So that is never entirely the parents’ fault. A lot is genetic.
That’s a comforting thought when you’re parenting, particularly if you’re a home schooling parent and worrying you may be ruining the children.
Be reassured; if you are ruining them – you won’t be ruining them on your own!
In fact, I’m sure you won’t be ruining them at all, it’s far more likely that by parenting with care and respect – and I guess you care and respect otherwise you probably wouldn’t be the type of parent visiting here and reading this – you will be developing those qualities in them. And this will in turn nurture caring and respectful responses to the world from them, thereby influencing a little how they respond and what they will become.
But mostly they do it for themselves, even if they make decisions based on our attitudes.
Chelsea is inherently who she is on her own. Maybe with snippets of attitudes she grew up with here in her early years, but mostly she’s chosen what she reckons are the best of what she’s seen for herself. That’s what they’ve been educated to do.
And seeing the choices she is making I can only be proud!