Feel the wobbles and do it anyway!

Whichever home education forum/group you belong to there’s always one subject that comes up time and again: wobbles!

So if you’re having some wobbles right now about home educating your child take heart from the fact you are not alone!

The other thing you can take heart from is an idea I often remind people of; you would still be having wobbles or worries over your child’s education if they were in school! Every parent does. In fact parenting itself is enough to give you wobbles let alone having education in the equation!

So be reassured that wobbling is completely natural, would be happening whatever parenting or educating style you choose and is not happening just because you’re home educating. So no need to blame home education or think that you’re wrong to do it.

Home educating is a perfectly doable, successful and happy way of educating children that develops intelligent, sociable young people able to make a valid contribution to society and create a fulfilling future for themselves.

There’s living proof now as generations grow up.

The thing is; wobbling is understandable. It’s just you caring. People who care worry about stuff!

Worry is just you thinking and taking responsibility, making decisions and reviewing what you’re doing as a parent in a conscientious and intelligent way. So wobbles are part of what it is to be a good parent. It is part of what it is to be a good home educator too. So don’t beat yourself up, don’t doubt, or think it’s because you’ve made the wrong choice. You haven’t necessarily.

What you are doing is observing and re-evaluating your children’s circumstances, which is what you need to do throughout their lives. But just because something might need changing this doesn’t make a previous decision wrong.

It’s simply to do with the fact that children – and our personal circumstances – grow and change constantly. These changes can be challenging and can make us wobble and throws up a need to reassess at times. We need to keep learning ourselves as we keep on home educating – just as we do with parenting as our children grow older.

But wobbling still doesn’t mean you’re doing the wrong thing; it’s more likely to be a crisis of confidence rather than a crisis of circumstance, so I suggest that you go with the wobble, talk with others, and do it anyway as a famous book suggests. (Except it’s called ‘Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway’).

I have done posts on the subject over the years I’ve been doing this blog, supporting parents who want to home educate, hoping to help through wobbling times. But it’s such a popular topic on forums and groups I thought it might help to collate some of them in one place. Hope the links below are useful and I haven’t repeated myself too much! Here goes:

Why not consider HE – worried – scared – read on…

Do you worry?

Answers to common concerns

When you’re starting out HEing

Where do you find the courage?

Imagine

Contrary to critics

 

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2 thoughts on “Feel the wobbles and do it anyway!

  1. Fabby advice – I home educated my son and spent so many sleepless nights worrying that I was doing it wrong or had in fact made the wrong decision to actually home educate. He is now doing extremely well at college but most important of all, he says that if he had not been home educated, he would not be the person he is today and he really likes the person that he is. I think that is a great achievement. I suppose it doesn’t matter how much we bang on about this though, it will never get rid of home educating wobbles and the reason for this is that if you home educate, you obviously care a great deal about your child’s future. Therefore, I would suggest that when you are having a really bad day, you should simply remind yourself that it is because you are such a caring parent. Enjoy your day.

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