Parents get plenty to deal with. Home educating parents get plenty more!
There are always concerns and prickly issues to mull over, options and alternatives to make decisions on; how to handle one issue, how to get through the next. Is there ever a smooth pathway to follow?
At times, maybe! But smooth all the time would mean that you’re making no changes, you’re not setting challenges which promote achievements, and life would get dead boring – or just dead.
At least when you’re overcoming prickly issues as a family you know you’re alive and living, choosing and evolving and, most important of all, learning and growing.
When we’re buried in concern though it’s often hard to see a solution. Yet it’s quite often the simplest solution that is the most workable. We also want a solution straight away and in real life that rarely happens – we need to be patient.
So I’m offering five tips today that I found helped to ease the way through – patiently:
1) Stop picking at it and give it some time and do other things. Allowing some time to pass always helps dilute the intensity of problems and it’s the intensity that can prevent us from seeing simple solutions.
2) Talk about it with someone not involved. People who are not involved can give a more objective perspective rather than the emotional one we can be wrapped up in.
3) Take it for a walk. Or take yourself for a walk. It’s amazing how time outside, with wider horizons, can calm and widen our mental horizons too.
4) Beware of over thinking. Try to stop thinking and focus on actions you can take for the time being. Even action not related to the issue helps.
5) Try and make some small changes remembering the simple saying; ‘if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got’! If you want a different outcome, you’re going to have to do it differently! That’s true of parenting, education, life in general.
We cannot always find an immediate and ready made solution to prickly issues. But be reassured that they will be resolved. And finding ways to deal with the uncertainty mean time not only helps you – it’s also a great set of skills to pass onto your kids!