Doing it in your PJs

I’m working in my night things again; it’ll probably be 10am before I’m dressed!

This is because once I’m up I start having ideas and want to get them down before the rest of the days’ dross takes over.

This was a habit I started when Home Educating; getting my own stuff done early before the children got up and the habit has stayed with me until now.

It wasn’t unusual actually for us all to be in PJs until late in the morning because the children were also enthusiastic about what they were doing and didn’t want to be bothered with trivial things like washing or getting dressed. I know how they feel.

Now this may be considered slovenly by some – and there are always plenty of judgements about home schooled children not ‘getting on’ or being ‘lazy’. But what could be more impressive than a youngster keen to get on with their activities, PJs or not? That’s what motivation is, isn’t it?

When children experience what motivation feels like then it overflows into a great deal of the rest of their lives, even some of the things they may be less keen on.

I used to wonder what people thought when they saw the kids hanging in a tree or making mud pies, because they were never seen inside studiously investigating something or practising writing or maths. They were only ever visible when they were out having fun – but we learnt a lot having fun.

When we had people visit we sometimes had critical and smug remarks about ‘fitting into society’ and working to a ‘real life timetable’.

Yet our kids, and many of the other home educating kids who they sometimes worked with, who also had rather unusual approaches to their learning like enjoying it or doing it in their PJs, sleeping in and working late, are generally able now to get up of a morning and get to work or their lectures on time despite that. In fact, I would say they are better able than many because they know what motivation is – they’ve felt it. Instead of having it switched off by other people imposing routines and dull activities on them.

Many home educated kids lead their lives by their own routines simply because they’ve been allowed to devise and practise their own routines. They know what’s appropriate and when it’s appropriate because they’ve learnt for themselves and do not have to rely on others to tell them.

And they know when it’s appropriate not to work in PJs.

So don’t worry yourself about these incidental little things. Home educating is a unique and individual way of raising your children, but it’s far more natural than school. And it will teach certain life skills to the children that will stand them in good stead when they enter the working world and have to be diverse in order to lead productive lives. It might well be diverse thinking that they need in order to generate incomes in this current working climate.

My kids might have worked in their PJs or been round Asda in a pink sparkly leotard when they were little. Now they’re grown they know other practises are more fitting. Yours will too.

Better go get dressed!

9 thoughts on “Doing it in your PJs

  1. Great post! We are in our PJ’s (my son in pants) for days when we are home alone. Interestingly enough, we manage to get up and dressed and out the door and are dressed for visitors when they come. It makes me smile to think that unless getting dressed at the same time every day is practiced, kids ‘will never learn’. It’s not exactly difficult -lol! Really enjoyed the read and appreciate you helping to dispelling yet another HE myth – and providing reassurance in the process 😀

    • Not meaning to imply that getting up and dressed is bad, by the way, just the criticism against PJ days from some, is all 😀

      • Thanks for these Melanie – much appreciated and it makes me smile too; the way people seem to need to stay within the safety net of these myths! x

  2. I think this is great, so long as folks like us don’t get put down for teaching the kids to get up, get dressed, wash, straighten their beds, and be ready for the day early! 🙂 It helps us to be focused on work and to head out to do the chores and leave for lessons on time….now mom might not be dressed that early, but I’m finished with graded lessons! Nice post!

  3. What a great post Ross! This is exactly our experience of home educating just now, we all wake up and are busy with so many things we don’t seem to get dressed til dinner time! Whilst it looks ‘lazy’ to some others, there has been so much drawing, colouring, playing and writing going on we know that is more important and is fine whilst the kids are young.

  4. I agree totally, says she who has been at the laptop since early on and is still in her dressing gown because the urge to work was stronger than the urge to have a wash. When I am sleeping,( I am a lark, early to bed and early to rise,) my owl son is in the newspaper archives doing research or setting up interviews with authors, actors and editors. I recognise that he works differently from me and that neither of the routines are wrong, they are individual. So we swing back to that same wisdom again – home education works because it embraces the individual instead of the masses.

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